Many people, specifically women, fall into the casual relationship trap. I thought I could handle it. The theory that lovers without commitment is the way to go when both parties want their physical needs met without having to deal with the time, energy and money necessary for a "serious" relationship is flawed. I know full well that I would eventually start to get emotionally attached and want something more than the physical aspect of a relationship. How long could I hold out? Not very long, it seems.
I asked questions last night and got a mishmash of answers that pointed in the general direction of what I expected. It is a casual relationship. It is a FWB relationship. It will go nowhere. I am wasting time. I miss dating. I miss feeling special. I miss planning outings together on weekends. I miss the "little things" like holding hands, kissing, all the public displays of affection.
Now, I'm at that point where I feel emptier every time a hookup occurs. Before I fall deeper in, I need to get out and fast. It's inevitable. My friends all saw that it was inevitable. Cut the cord, they would tell me. Move on. Find someone who has the time and can give you what you want. But it's always easier said than done.
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